Solitude is good
Do you need time by yourself? Most of us do whether we realize it or not. I had a friend who used to call it "me time." Whenever I started getting short with people he’d say I was missing my "me time." I finally figured out he was right.
A few years ago I had a roommate who was around most of the time. (And he was loud!) I used to go into work late or come home early every day just so I would have some time alone in the house. If I have some alone time in the morning, my whole day goes better. I used to think it was because I hated feeling like I got up to go to work but now I think it’s because I just need some time to myself to contemplate the day before I get going.
It doesn’t have to be first thing in the morning. Back when Frank worked nights I used to get Jacob up in the morning, feed him and dress him and then we’d read stories until his grandparents picked him up. Then I’d have my alone time. (As a side note, Jacob doesn’t remember those mornings. He was only three years old. I find that really sad because we really enjoyed them. I’ll keep the good memories for him!)
Ester Buchholtz wrote The call of solitude in Psychology Today where she says modern day society with all its connectedness, cell phones, internet, etc, is intruding on our alone time and we don’t even know it. But just because we don’t realize that we aren’t getting our "me time" doesn’t mean that we don’t need it. She says one of the main problems is that we associate solitude with loneliness. Anytime we are alone we think we are lonely. I certainly know people that are always bored if they are alone (or they turn on the TV in order to not feel lonely) but I also know people who really enjoy hiking or hunting by themselves. Her article is long but worth reading.