Everybody else knows what you should do with your life

Do you know what you want to do with the rest of your life?  No? Well I bet everybody else could tell you what you should do!  I’ve got a great career in the computer software field and I’m about to graduate from massage school.  I’m getting really tired of people assuming that I should do one thing or the other.   Their assumptions are particularly frustrating because I could use some good conversation and feedback.

There’s the majority of people that assume that I should keep my high paying, visible, successful career.  They seem to be focused on the salary and the fact that it’s a "successful" career.  Then there’s the group of people that assume because I went to school and I’m graduating, I should do that for a career.

My problem is that I don’t know what I want to do and I want to talk to people about it but it’s really hard to have a productive conversation when they’ve already decided what I should do without even knowing how I feel!

For example here’s a conversation I had on Sunday:

Friend: I think it’s so great that you’ve put all this time into school and you’re about to graduate, start a business, have flexible hours and be able to spend more time with your kids.  What a great thing you are doing.
Me: I’m not planning on quitting my job and going into massage.
Friend: Stormy! You’ve got to. You can do. You’ll be able to spend more time with your kids!
Me: Quitting work and starting a massage business wasn’t really ever the plan. 
Friend: It’s tough to start a massage business but you can do it!

And the conversation I want to be having is about what do I want to do.  Not how I can do it.  I’m completely confident I can work out the details of whatever I want to do, if I could only figure out what that was!

Luckily, I live in a time when we are all going to live long enough to have three or four careers so I don’t just have to pick just one!  I can be a software geek and then a massage therapist and then a doctor and then a librarian.  Or maybe a book scout.   Or I could just try to do them all at once!