How many hats do you wear?
When Iâ€™m in a city and say Iâ€™m there for a software conference, I wear my â€œall technical people” hat. When Iâ€™m the only woman in a room of men, I wear my â€œthe entire female genderâ€ hat. When Iâ€™m the only American at a long table full of Europeans, I wear my â€œAmericanâ€ hat. At those times, I feel like my behavior reflects on an entire gender, nationality or industry.
That often makes me think and act very carefully. Sometimes that makes me feel guilty. It often feels stressful.
So just go easy on Marissa Mayer.
She didnâ€™t choose to wear the female hat. But she did choose to wear the CEO hat. And the mom hat. And the female mom CEO hat. Wow! What a burden that must feel like at times. So give her some slack. Let her do the best she can the way she thinks is right. She obviously chose not to wear the â€œchildren should spend the first couple of months with their momâ€ hat. Thatâ€™s ok with me. Sheâ€™s wearing a lot of hats. And sheâ€™s pushing the stereotypes. For a lot of hats that I care about. Give her some room to breath. Remove the stress of imposing yet another hat on her. Support her in all the hats she has to wear.
I say this from my a day of camping without work and without kids. So pretty hat free, relatively speaking. Yeah to the female, mom, CEO!
One Reply to “Let others choose their own hats”
Agree and why is this any of our business? Men who are CEO’s and fathers don’t seem to be under such scrutiny but when it’s a woman, all bets are off and everything done or said is fair game. Enough I say, get on with your own life and stop judging others for their choices.
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