It’s too easy to post that interesting article to Facebook or Twitter and not say much about it.
I wasted the last hour reading updates on Facebook.
I don’t want to break other people’s news. The ideas that really fascinate me are the ones other people tell me about … and they haven’t written about them yet. They never seem to get around to writing about them and I don’t feel like it’s my role to break their news.
I don’t know where to post it. Should my funny dog post be two sentences on Facebook or a post on my personal blog or should I create a dog blog or should I guest post on a dog website?
I don’t want to deal with the flame war. A lot of really fascinating ideas have become really hot topics lately and nobody seems to be able to debate them even semi-objectively.
I don’t want to deal with hate mail. The last time I posted what I thought was a personal post about how I deal with life as a woman at conferences, women from around the world came out of the woodwork to tell me I was stupid and wrong and harming women.
Too personal. I used to feel like I was sharing my blog with a group of friends and friends of friends. Now it feels like I’m sharing it with the world. Forever.
Too invasive. I have lots of stories that I now write down but can not share because it wouldn’t be appropriate to share that about people. I don’t remember having this problem so I don’t know if I used to write about people confident in the fact they wouldn’t read it or if I just wasn’t as tempted by the stories of other people. This is particularly true for me for stories about other parents.
Too much social media. It feels like we spend so much time sharing the moment on social media, with people that aren’t here, and then checking to see how many people liked it, that we forget to live in the moment. The answer to this would be less social media, not less writing, but what happens is that I write less.
No RSS reader. It feels like Facebook has replaced RSS readers, so I no longer feel like I have a following on my blog. Blogs are more dependent on SEO and social media than they are on a following which really changed the audience and the conversation.
Higher standards. Blog posts used to be something people wrote daily. They often were not polished. Now blog posts are expected to be well polished, often with professional editors and multiple levels of review.
No pictures. Where’s my picture to go with this post? Should it be a selfie of me not writing? Or a stock image photo? Can you publish an article without an image any more? Medium says you should add a high resolution picture to capture people’s interest.
I did some research to see when I should get two new Southwest credit cards. People look at you weird when you say you play the credit card game but I’ve found them to be worth it. This time I’m working on a Southwest companion pass for 2018 and 2019. This means every time we fly Southwest on vacation, one of us will fly for free. A lot of travel bloggers have written about it. You need to apply for one card by October 1st and the other by October 5th. (And if you froze all your credit, you will need to find out what credit agency they will use to check your credit and unfreeze it first.)
In anticipation of Krewe of Boo, Halloween and Chewbacchus, I’m working on a Rey costume. I spent a lot of time looking for pictures of her and then when I talked to my 11 year old, he remembered everything in great detail without having to consult any pictures. I should have asked him first. My partner mentioned that I’d need to figure out how to fix my hair and I told him there are tons of YouTube videos on just Rey’s hair.
Last weekend I took pictures at a Crossfit competition and really wished I knew how to make the background blurry so that I could focus just on the people in the foreground — there were a lot of people standing around. So I spent some time learning about aperture and learned how to set up aperture priority mode on my camera. The article that got me started in the right direction was one about taking pictures at corporate events. There are a lot of articles about depth of focus.
Three and a half million people without power and running water! No drinking water! With no near term solution in sight. I’m sure money would help but they are also going to need some major logistical help and being an island is an disadvantage. And being a US territory, something few US citizens understand, is also a disadvantage. I read that Tesla is sending powerwalls. And private companies have been flying in medicine and flying out medical patients. It’s going to take a lot to help everyone that needs help.
I was watching Guardians of the Galaxy, Part 2 and I realized that while baby Groot was making me laugh, it was Rocket that I understood. Rocket is an interpreter. He might even be a community manager.
In Guardians of the Galaxy, there’s a character called Groot. And the only thing he ever says is “I am Groot.” After a few instances, it becomes clear that he is saying a lot with each “I am Groot.”
This becomes particularly clear in Guardians of the Galaxy, Part 2. Every time Baby Groot says “I am Groot,” Rocket either responds to him or tells the rest of the group what Baby Groot just said.
For example, in the scene below, Baby Groot knocks over an alien and then says “I am Groot” and Rocket responds “They were not looking at you funny.” In that moment, we realize that Baby Groot is obviously saying something that we don’t understand.
Community managers are often interpreters just like Rocket is. Community managers often can hear both sides of a discussion and they realize what someone is trying to say that is not being heard by others. They hear “I am Groot” and realize the person is saying “If we do it this way, then we’ll get more contributors.” or “If you do it that way, you’re forgetting about that risk I mentioned before.” They are interpreters. Or at least people that can recognize that something is getting lost in translation.
Good community managers make sure people are heard correctly and lead us to realize that we are missing some thing. That way we all learn to listen more carefully leading to better communities.
Once I got over being angry about the final chapter that explains why all that history excuses why men cheat but not why women do, I realized the thing that stuck with me was not about sex but about how farming has changed our health.
Hunter gathers live to be about 70 years old. It was only after we introduced farming and land ownership to the equation that life expectancy dropped drastically in the middle ages. The book had a number of theories about why hunter gathers lived longer:
Fewer children. They had fewer children due to delayed puberty. Hunter gathers ate a lot less fat and were generally a lot thinner. This meant that puberty was delayed and women did not start having children until later in life. Having a lot of children tends to decrease a woman’s life expectancy.
Fewer children. They had fewer children because they breast fed longer. Because hunter gathers did not have animals to produce milk, they could not switch young toddlers to animal milk, so women breast feed their children longer. Breastfeeding women are less likely to get pregnant. Having less children increased their life expectancy.
Less disease. Hunter gathers were less likely to die of disease because they lived in smaller groups. Hunter gathers lived spread out and had contact with only a small group of people on a regular basis. Farming communities could feed more people in a dense area. Dense areas are more likely to spread disease to more people quickly.
Better diet. Hunter gathers, based on their bones, did not go through long periods of malnutrition like medieval village dwellers did. When food wasn’t good, they moved. Village dwellers had to depend on crops and if the crops were not good, they had no easy backup supply. Also villagers ate many more grains which had less calories and protein than what hunter gathers ate.
War. Hunter gathers did not often fight wars nor even skirmishes. Wars came about when people settled and fought over land and possessions. The authors spent quite a bit of time on this one as they believe that hunter gathers have unfairly gotten a reputation for being violent.
The book goes on to theorize that the more promiscuous women are in a culture, the more peaceful it is. The authors had a number of reasons. Among them was that societies with promiscuous women don’t fight over women as possessions and they don’t promote their children over others. Since none of the men knows whose children are whose, they help all the children out. I think that’s a lovely idea but not sure why it makes sense for only one gender.
The book also briefly touched on how land ownership changed many things in our culture, including sex. According to the book, when landownership became a thing, people became preoccupied with making sure their land stayed in their family. They became more concerned with making sure their kids were really their biological kids; they became much more concerned about who their partners were having sex with. Since land was all owned by men, and women don’t have much doubt about whether a child is theirs or not, men spent a lot more time and energy making sure their female partners did not have sex with anyone else.
There were a lot of other interesting points in the book, many much more related to the title — things like why women are verbal during orgasms, why human male penises are so large compared to other primates and even theories on why different races have different size testes.
I recommend you read it if you are interested in all those things. I’m going to go learn more about the evolution of our society, hunter gathers and cities.
I miss reading blog posts about things people are passionate about. I read Blog, You Idiots today and it resonated with me. What happened to all the people writing just because writing was fun and they cared about something? I don’t want to read top 10 lists. I want to read about you and what you think is interesting in the world. I want to know what gets you up in the morning, what you you are passionate about, what you found interesting in this morning’s feed, what made you angry, what you are obsessed about this week, why you are going to invest 10 hours in fixing something. And I don’t just want you to share the article in your Facebook feed. I want to know what you think about it. I want to know it’s something you care about enough to spend a few hours writing and trying to explain it to your friends. Teach me something new. Show me a new topic that I might be passionate about too!
If you put “the first …” or the “youngest” or the “richest” in your tagline or bio, be sure that’s what you want to be known for.
I was looking through authors on Medium and wondered, does that person really want to be known as “the youngest mayor”? Does he win Millennial votes that way? If not, what advantages does being young give him in the voters’ eyes?
If you are going to brag about being “the first” or “the most-est”, make sure it’s what you want to be known for! What you are proud of and what you want to known for might be two different things.
I spend my day working on lots of different things and I’m often context switching. I was also playing around with the search on Google Photos and find it fascinating that I can see all the pictures of a particular person, or all the pictures of “doors” or all the pictures of “angry”. Now I want that ability to group together my emails. I want to automatically have my inbox grouped by topic.
I read the book Grit recently. This take by Jon Gordon, based on the author’s work, was slightly different but still good. I like the focus on doing something that has purpose to you instead of just “doing what you love” which I think leads people to think that you shouldn’t do things you don’t enjoy every minute of.
Tesla workers are passing out on the factory floor, according to a report. I didn’t investigate any further but assume it’s more than 1 or 2 people since CNBC is reporting. I’m not sure that’s a safe assumption these days. I think it’s crazy and fascinating that they have such a dedicated work culture. But definitely awful that it’s so short term focused that they aren’t even taking care of employees.
We Recorded VCs’ Conversations and Analyzed How Differently They Talk About Female Entrepreneurs. Researchers study 2 years worth of closed door venture capitalists’ conversations. There was a big difference in how men and women were described and in how much money they received. Men were “Young and promising” where as women were more likely to be described as “Young, and inexperienced”. They have a whole list of comparisons but they didn’t give any advice for how we can change the situation.
Everything New About Android From Google I/O. I didn’t see anything crazy on Android but my kids will be happy about the picture-in-picture and offline YouTube. (I’m waiting for more standalone cell phone watches like the Samsung Gear2-3 although hopefully smaller.)
Google Photos and Google Home phone calling does look really cool. Couples can finally share pictures. And Google Home will recognize who is asking for the phone call and use their phone number to make the call.
And then I read a few articles about our current political happenings. I feel like I should be keeping a scrap book for the kids.
My family’s slave. A story about a family from Manila who brings along a person who belongs to them. And they keep her for 56 years. A family member without freedom. I feel like it’ll be a few days before I know what to say about this but the story is moving and worth reading.
There Is a Fake IDGod, and He Lives in China. I suppose it should be no surprise that you can now buy fake ids over the internet from China, but it was a fascinating surprise to me. What other illegal things can you buy on the internet?