Gretchen from the Happiness Project had a great story today that emphasized the truth of her main point:
If you have plenty of fun in your life â€“ if you make time to see
friends, to learn about things that interest you, to do the things you
enjoy, like reading or going to movies or hiking â€“ you have a higher
store of patience and tolerance.
On the other hand, when you donâ€™t have much fun in your life, itâ€™s
easy to become preoccupied with the aggravations and frustrations.
Thereâ€™s nothing to distract you from your bad feelings.
Gretchen was pushing a stroller through ice and snow and didn’t even realize how difficult it was until she got home because she was having so much fun talking to her friend. It’s like a long wait at a restaurant isn’t noticeable if you are catching up with an old friend.
I deleted two posts today. Why?
I finished listening to The Attractor Factor by Joe Vitale and I’m listening to The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. While I keep thinking The Secret is kind of hoakey, I buy into it. What it claims fits not only my life experience but what I’ve noticed in others. Basically the law of attraction says that you attract what you think about. So if you think positive thoughts, you’ll attract postive things. If you think about money all the time, you’ll attract money. If you think about how you don’t have enough money, you’ll never have enough money. It sounds hoakey but it works. Think about it.
I’ll give you two examples. One, the woman that cleans our house always has some tragedy going on. Her granddaughter got bit by a dog, one of her kids is going through bankruptsy, her son’s dog got stolen, … I’ve known her for several years now and everytime I talk to her something terrible has just happened to her. I think her focus on the negative brings her negative experiences, as terrible as that sounds.
On the flip side, in college I always knew I’d have enough money. Granted, that wasn’t such a big deal as Mom and Dad paid for tuition and board but the money I earned paid for clothes, eating out, entertainment, furniture, gas, etc. I always knew I had enough and I did. I remember one time getting an unexpected $200 bill and in panic sat down to rebalance my checkbook just in case. And what do you know? I’d made a $200 mistake the week before. I always had enough because I always believed I had enough. Granted, I caused that to happen – I always had at least one job if not two or three and they all paid well.
While the books make the Law of Attraction sound like some kind of voodoo (The Secret more so than the Attractor Factor), I think they are on to something. So I’m thinking postive thoughts: I have a great family, a good job, plenty of money, lots of interesting activities to keep me busy, lots of good books to read, …
I was listening to The Secret on the way home and loved this thought:
Your negative thoughts never hurt anyone but yourself.
How many times have you complained about someone, sworn at the driver in front of you or fumed about the rude customer service rep? All those negative thoughts didn’t hurt the people you were mad at at all – those thoughts just put you in a bad mood and probably started a spiral of negativity for the rest of the day.