This article slams baby boomers for being selfish because they are (supposedly) rich and not planning on leaving it to their kids. They are planning on spending their money in retirement.
I don’t understand why people are expected to leave things to their kids. I understand that once upon a time you left your farm, trade or store to the kids and it became their livelihood but in today’s world, that’s the same as giving them a good education. Why are parents expected to also fund their kids’ retirements?
Mom, Dad, thanks for the great education. Please spend all your money as you wish and enjoy your retirement! (But anytime you want to babysit … 😉
This study shows an amazing correlation between the age you retire and how long you live. Retire by 50 and live to be 86. Retire at 65 and you’ll only live another year. The study was based on data from Boeing so we should probably do a few more studies before we advise everyone to retire at 50 but it sure can’t hurt!
Why do we all play the lottery when it’s been proven that winning the lottery won’t make us any happier? Lottery winners are no happier six months after they win the lottery than they were before they one. Many of them are considerably unhappier.
I wrote a few days ago about how money isn’t evil. The flip side is also true – money won’t solve all your problems. I think we play the lottery because we don’t want to go to work everyday and we think we want a new car, maybe a new house and fancier vacations. The real problem is that we don’t know what we want – we don’t know what would make us happy. While money is certainly an enabler and I believe having money is a good thing, it won’t help you figure out the purpose of your life. Money won’t help you figure out what makes you happy. It won’t tell you how to spend your day.
The key to happiness isn’t winning the lottery, it’s figuring out what makes you happy. I guarantee that if you know what makes you happy, what you enjoy doing every day, you can find a way to do that and pay the bills. But no matter how big the jackpot is, it won’t tell you what to do with the rest of your life.
While I was on maternity leave I decided I really didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life. Most of my friends work so they weren’t available to do things with in the middle of the day and the few that didn’t work were pretty busy living their lives. So what was I supposed to do all day? (Actually, I alternated between not knowing what do do and feeling like all I had time to do was run errands. How do we get all those errands done when we are working full time?) A lot of the things I normally would have done weren’t possible. For example, I couldn’t work out for the first couple of weeks after giving birth. I couldn’t go hiking or bike riding with a two week old infant. So when I stumbled across a book called The Joy of Not Working: A Book for the Retired, Unemployed and Overworked- 21st Century Edition, I ordered it. However, by accident I got How to Retire Happy, Wild, and Free: Retirement Wisdom That You Won’t Get from Your Financial Advisor. They both turned out to be pretty interesting. Since then I’ve bought another copy of the retirment book and lent them to my in-laws and my 89 year old grandmother – at their request!
Ernie Zelinki‘s main point is that most of us don’t know what to do if we aren’t working. (And to those of you who read my blog who are happily retired, I congratulate you!) He says we get some of our basic social needs from work:
- Organization – What time do you wake up? What are you supposed to do all day?
- Purpose – What’s your purpose in life? What are you trying to accomplish?
- Community – Who do you do things with?
The books are written in a pretty simplistic style but he has a lot of good points. He strongly encourages people to get interests outside of work and to not be dependent on work for a sense of community and purpose. He also gives lots of just basic good life advice like maintain your health, make good friends, etc. In addition, he provides a few exercises and ideas for doing that. I agreed with a lot of what he said, like making a few good friends instead of lots of casual friends, not watching tv, and participating in lots of different activities.
He also advocated working for yourself at something you enjoy rather than working for somebody else. I’ve been listening and reading a lot of self development books and blogs and this seems to be a common theme. Work for yourself, follow your passions, develop your interests, don’t drone on and on at your desk job. Ernie as well as many others point out that money and/or retirement will not make you happy by themselves. You have to have a sense of purpose, a group of friends and a set of activities you enjoy in order to be happy in life.