Comments for Stormy's Corner http://stormyscorner.com Mon, 21 May 2012 13:54:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 Comment on Deciding to Stop Breastfeeding by Dayna http://stormyscorner.com/2006/09/deciding-to-stop-breastfeeding.html/comment-page-6#comment-118155 Dayna Mon, 21 May 2012 13:54:00 +0000 http://stormyscorner.com/2006/09/deciding-to-stop-breastfeeding.html#comment-118155 I just stopped breastfeeding at three months. I used both formula and breastmilk. I never made enough milk, and felt like a failure. The hardest part is knowing that I won't be able to look down at that sweet connection the same again. It tears me up, but I know that moving on is the right thing. Society has added a TON of guilt to my decision. Great post. I just stopped breastfeeding at three months. I used both formula and breastmilk. I never made enough milk, and felt like a failure. The hardest part is knowing that I won’t be able to look down at that sweet connection the same again. It tears me up, but I know that moving on is the right thing. Society has added a TON of guilt to my decision.
Great post.

]]> Comment on Deciding to Stop Breastfeeding by Molly http://stormyscorner.com/2006/09/deciding-to-stop-breastfeeding.html/comment-page-6#comment-116837 Molly Tue, 15 May 2012 16:31:45 +0000 http://stormyscorner.com/2006/09/deciding-to-stop-breastfeeding.html#comment-116837 Thank you for your post!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you for your post!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

]]> Comment on Deciding to Stop Breastfeeding by Bridgette http://stormyscorner.com/2006/09/deciding-to-stop-breastfeeding.html/comment-page-6#comment-116826 Bridgette Tue, 15 May 2012 14:56:05 +0000 http://stormyscorner.com/2006/09/deciding-to-stop-breastfeeding.html#comment-116826 Thank you so much for writting this. My baby is turning one month old this week and I am so done with breastfeeding. I hate the way it feels and the mess it makes, I have to use a shield because I have flat nipples. We are an on the go family and I refuse to nurse in public, I am just not comfortable with it. And we have four other children ages 1-6 so having to sit for 30 minutes and feed one is just not an option with other small children running around. But every where I looked for help all I got was "keep trying" or "why won't you keep it up" So thank you for making me feel not alone in my decision Thank you so much for writting this. My baby is turning one month old this week and I am so done with breastfeeding. I hate the way it feels and the mess it makes, I have to use a shield because I have flat nipples. We are an on the go family and I refuse to nurse in public, I am just not comfortable with it. And we have four other children ages 1-6 so having to sit for 30 minutes and feed one is just not an option with other small children running around. But every where I looked for help all I got was “keep trying” or “why won’t you keep it up” So thank you for making me feel not alone in my decision

]]> Comment on Deciding to Stop Breastfeeding by Jacque http://stormyscorner.com/2006/09/deciding-to-stop-breastfeeding.html/comment-page-6#comment-116079 Jacque Thu, 10 May 2012 15:59:57 +0000 http://stormyscorner.com/2006/09/deciding-to-stop-breastfeeding.html#comment-116079 I am a mother of 3 children, all of which I breastfed and one that I am still to this day. When I became pregnant at the young age of 17 with my first child I knew that I wanted to be the best mother I could be and had decided while pregnant to have natural child birth and to breastfeed, although that went against how I was taught...My mother was taught by her mother to bind the breast after delivery and that during childbirth drugs were the way to go! LOL But I knew that was not for me. My Natural delivery was in a hospital setting but the nurses and doctors at the S.F. Hospital were very pro-natural childbirth and it went awesome, was a great first experience :) But after I had my son, I did not have much help with BF, sure the nurse came one time to help me out but I needed help all the time! I thought the pain would NEVER go away...I nursed my son for a month and a 1/2, just as he was really getting the hang of it (I had one joyful painless breastfeeding moment I'll never forget) then I gave him a bottle so I could have a datenight with his dad and from then on he'd rather have the bottle. I gave in too easy:( I waited ten years to have another child, this time more mature, married, and more educated...I read books about the Bradley Method and really KNEW what I wanted with this Delivery and was determined to BF, took an Awesome class on NCB and BF...And that's exactly what I did. I had my 2nd son at a Birthing Center Completely Natural, Best Experience Ever! The Mid Wife and Doula were awesome with helping me get started and also my sister-in-law was very helpful as well! It helps to have a Good Support System. A Pump is a Must especially starting out so you don't get engorged, nipple cups and lanolin help greatly. If one was more sore than the other I would pump the sore one and only nurse on the good side until I could switch...I just really stuck it out because I KNEW that's what I wanted to do. I chose this Not Only because of the Supposed Benefits which are great BUT because I knew I wanted to be a Stay@Home mom, it was also the more Cost Efficient thing to do, and MOSTLY because I wanted to Experience the Personal Bond that I've heard is so amazing...Which Amazing is not even the right word, it's priceless, overwhelming, something no one else can experience But YOU and YOUR BABY...I think what I love most are the EYES that look up at you, it's different than when you feed a bottle, those EYES are Just for MOM :)) My little man weened himself when he was 18months and I was ok with it, a little sad, but he was ok so I was ok....Now with my Last Baby, who was our surprise little girl I thought I'd never have, she just turned Two Yesterday, and let me tell you, she Still Loves the Boobies! And because she's my Baby and my Last I am having a Difficult time giving it up myself. She is a very smart, independent little girl, growing fast, starting to talk, and yet when she wants to nurse she is a just a baby to me. It's funny because I used to think it would be Crazy to nurse this long before and Never thought I would and Even looked down on Someone I know for nursing her son til he was 2+...but now that my lil girl is Already 2years Old!! I am ashamed of myself for ever judging someone else because now I understand why...of course I only feed her in the Privacy of our own home but when I admit to friends that I AM still nursing her, I see the look of Judgement on their faces, like WHY?? They try to understand BUT I know they don't...This is why I looked up this discussion today because I am having such a hard time with the thought that I might actually have to pick a Day. The Day I say No More, or have that LAST Feeding, the last time I will breast feed one of my precious babies for the REST of my LIFE...will it be the perfect moment? It makes me sad. Don't get me wrong I wouldn't mind having my boobs back to myself and of course my Husband wouldn't mind them back either, Thank God for his patience. I just wish she was like my 2nd Son and just ween herself! I didn't even know our last feeding was our last feeding, it was on a camping trip when I put him to bed in our tent, and the next morning he never asked for it again...Simple...this time not so simple...well that's my story....I guess I should have just started my own Blog, not much of a comment really. LOL I am a mother of 3 children, all of which I breastfed and one that I am still to this day. When I became pregnant at the young age of 17 with my first child I knew that I wanted to be the best mother I could be and had decided while pregnant to have natural child birth and to breastfeed, although that went against how I was taught…My mother was taught by her mother to bind the breast after delivery and that during childbirth drugs were the way to go! LOL But I knew that was not for me. My Natural delivery was in a hospital setting but the nurses and doctors at the S.F. Hospital were very pro-natural childbirth and it went awesome, was a great first experience :) But after I had my son, I did not have much help with BF, sure the nurse came one time to help me out but I needed help all the time! I thought the pain would NEVER go away…I nursed my son for a month and a 1/2, just as he was really getting the hang of it (I had one joyful painless breastfeeding moment I’ll never forget) then I gave him a bottle so I could have a datenight with his dad and from then on he’d rather have the bottle. I gave in too easy:( I waited ten years to have another child, this time more mature, married, and more educated…I read books about the Bradley Method and really KNEW what I wanted with this Delivery and was determined to BF, took an Awesome class on NCB and BF…And that’s exactly what I did. I had my 2nd son at a Birthing Center Completely Natural, Best Experience Ever! The Mid Wife and Doula were awesome with helping me get started and also my sister-in-law was very helpful as well! It helps to have a Good Support System. A Pump is a Must especially starting out so you don’t get engorged, nipple cups and lanolin help greatly. If one was more sore than the other I would pump the sore one and only nurse on the good side until I could switch…I just really stuck it out because I KNEW that’s what I wanted to do. I chose this Not Only because of the Supposed Benefits which are great BUT because I knew I wanted to be a Stay@Home mom, it was also the more Cost Efficient thing to do, and MOSTLY because I wanted to Experience the Personal Bond that I’ve heard is so amazing…Which Amazing is not even the right word, it’s priceless, overwhelming, something no one else can experience But YOU and YOUR BABY…I think what I love most are the EYES that look up at you, it’s different than when you feed a bottle, those EYES are Just for MOM :) ) My little man weened himself when he was 18months and I was ok with it, a little sad, but he was ok so I was ok….Now with my Last Baby, who was our surprise little girl I thought I’d never have, she just turned Two Yesterday, and let me tell you, she Still Loves the Boobies! And because she’s my Baby and my Last I am having a Difficult time giving it up myself. She is a very smart, independent little girl, growing fast, starting to talk, and yet when she wants to nurse she is a just a baby to me. It’s funny because I used to think it would be Crazy to nurse this long before and Never thought I would and Even looked down on Someone I know for nursing her son til he was 2+…but now that my lil girl is Already 2years Old!! I am ashamed of myself for ever judging someone else because now I understand why…of course I only feed her in the Privacy of our own home but when I admit to friends that I AM still nursing her, I see the look of Judgement on their faces, like WHY?? They try to understand BUT I know they don’t…This is why I looked up this discussion today because I am having such a hard time with the thought that I might actually have to pick a Day. The Day I say No More, or have that LAST Feeding, the last time I will breast feed one of my precious babies for the REST of my LIFE…will it be the perfect moment? It makes me sad. Don’t get me wrong I wouldn’t mind having my boobs back to myself and of course my Husband wouldn’t mind them back either, Thank God for his patience. I just wish she was like my 2nd Son and just ween herself! I didn’t even know our last feeding was our last feeding, it was on a camping trip when I put him to bed in our tent, and the next morning he never asked for it again…Simple…this time not so simple…well that’s my story….I guess I should have just started my own Blog, not much of a comment really. LOL

]]> Comment on Deciding to Stop Breastfeeding by Cantor http://stormyscorner.com/2006/09/deciding-to-stop-breastfeeding.html/comment-page-6#comment-114245 Cantor Sun, 29 Apr 2012 20:16:24 +0000 http://stormyscorner.com/2006/09/deciding-to-stop-breastfeeding.html#comment-114245 Sorry, mistake....I meant "it does not HAVE the power to impact a child's health." (not my mother tongue..) Sorry, mistake….I meant “it does not HAVE the power to impact a child’s health.”
(not my mother tongue..)

]]> Comment on Deciding to Stop Breastfeeding by Cantor http://stormyscorner.com/2006/09/deciding-to-stop-breastfeeding.html/comment-page-6#comment-114243 Cantor Sun, 29 Apr 2012 20:15:06 +0000 http://stormyscorner.com/2006/09/deciding-to-stop-breastfeeding.html#comment-114243 You are perfectly right, Angela. Ibiso'children will not be healthier than yours. She simply naïvely believed LLL'scrap. Lots of people do. B Milk is not a bad thing, but it does not, in any way, has the power to impact a child's health. IQ, allergies, interpersonal skills...crap crap crap.. How could people believe that? Simpletons. http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2009/04/the-case-against-breast-feeding/7311/ So please Angela, do not loose your precious time being upset with Ibiso...she does not know any better... You are perfectly right, Angela.

Ibiso’children will not be healthier than yours. She simply naïvely believed LLL’scrap. Lots of people do.

B Milk is not a bad thing, but it does not, in any way, has the power to impact a child’s health.
IQ, allergies, interpersonal skills…crap crap crap..
How could people believe that? Simpletons.

http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2009/04/the-case-against-breast-feeding/7311/

So please Angela, do not loose your precious time being upset with Ibiso…she does not know any better…

]]> Comment on Deciding to Stop Breastfeeding by Cantor http://stormyscorner.com/2006/09/deciding-to-stop-breastfeeding.html/comment-page-6#comment-114242 Cantor Sun, 29 Apr 2012 19:58:59 +0000 http://stormyscorner.com/2006/09/deciding-to-stop-breastfeeding.html#comment-114242 "Breastfeeding is supposed to help kids’ immunity and decrease their long term odds of obesity. Those are the two I worried about the most." This was NEVER seriously scientifically proved. So it might be that you did breastfeed for NOTHING. LLL is a lobby. The so-called benefits of BF have been largely overrated. No antibodies pass from mother to baby's blood through breasfeeding. We differ from animals at that point of view. The antibodies can only act locally, in the digestive system. The only proven BF added value is a slight protection against gastroenteritis. See Kramer study on 17000 babies. Kramer consider BF as a positive thing, but clearly states that the former studies mentionned by LLL were biaised. It is sad that so many women suffer or experience guiltiness because of LIES. “Breastfeeding is supposed to help kids’ immunity and decrease their long term odds of obesity. Those are the two I worried about the most.”

This was NEVER seriously scientifically proved.

So it might be that you did breastfeed for NOTHING.

LLL is a lobby. The so-called benefits of BF have been largely overrated.

No antibodies pass from mother to baby’s blood through breasfeeding. We differ from animals at that point of view. The antibodies can only act locally, in the digestive system. The only proven BF added value is a slight protection against gastroenteritis. See Kramer study on 17000 babies. Kramer consider BF as a positive thing, but clearly states that the former studies mentionned by LLL were biaised.

It is sad that so many women suffer or experience guiltiness because of LIES.

]]> Comment on Getting management feedback from your kids by Henry Gomersall http://stormyscorner.com/2012/04/getting-management-feedback-from-your-kids.html/comment-page-1#comment-113370 Henry Gomersall Wed, 25 Apr 2012 18:01:26 +0000 http://stormyscorner.com/?p=1974#comment-113370 I think the issue here is one of being put on the spot. I distinctly dislike, for example, being pressed to set a deadline. I'm not sure if it's because of my personality type, but I've found from experience I'm really bad at it and consequently find it a sure fire route to embarassment (at least, I perceive not making a deadline as embarassing). The alternative of course is to massively over estimate. This would certainly work but seems dishonest to me - I genuinely don't think it would take that long (but I'm always wrong!). The defensive point is certainly valid as well. It's very hard to pose a question like you described without it carrying some implicit value judgement (either now or in the future). Preempting the value judgement with "I'll get it done, ok", is a natural response. I think the issue here is one of being put on the spot. I distinctly dislike, for example, being pressed to set a deadline. I’m not sure if it’s because of my personality type, but I’ve found from experience I’m really bad at it and consequently find it a sure fire route to embarassment (at least, I perceive not making a deadline as embarassing). The alternative of course is to massively over estimate. This would certainly work but seems dishonest to me – I genuinely don’t think it would take that long (but I’m always wrong!).

The defensive point is certainly valid as well. It’s very hard to pose a question like you described without it carrying some implicit value judgement (either now or in the future). Preempting the value judgement with “I’ll get it done, ok”, is a natural response.

]]> Comment on Getting management feedback from your kids by Ghee Teo http://stormyscorner.com/2012/04/getting-management-feedback-from-your-kids.html/comment-page-1#comment-112815 Ghee Teo Mon, 23 Apr 2012 15:38:01 +0000 http://stormyscorner.com/?p=1974#comment-112815 One possibility is that kids think you are not respecting their abilities when so many questions were asked. But in case, my son (15) just think I am dumb going through all these questions :). One possibility is that kids think you are not respecting their abilities when so many questions were asked. But in case, my son (15) just think I am dumb going through all these questions :) .

]]> Comment on Getting management feedback from your kids by stormy http://stormyscorner.com/2012/04/getting-management-feedback-from-your-kids.html/comment-page-1#comment-111665 stormy Wed, 18 Apr 2012 21:27:43 +0000 http://stormyscorner.com/?p=1974#comment-111665 Well, yes, of course. I am asking questions about the things they have told me about. :) I like your list of things to talk about. I would also add a few minutes to just chat and ask how the other person is doing. I think that's really important for teams that don't see each other much. Well, yes, of course. I am asking questions about the things they have told me about. :)

I like your list of things to talk about. I would also add a few minutes to just chat and ask how the other person is doing. I think that’s really important for teams that don’t see each other much.

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